Kekuatan Wanita Terletak Pada Kelembutan Hatinya...

I am deeply moved when I read a comment by someone, on a recent entry that I've posted on my blog...

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Assalamualaikum,
Good day Mr.Zuraini.


Each and everyday I read your blog since Cencalok year 2007. Tapi, bila baca "Till Death Do Us Apart", menyentuh hati saya sekali. Kerana saya mengalami nasib yang sama seperti wife. Cuma dia bernasib baik kerana husband tersedar dan kembali semula, tidak seperti saya. Apa yang wife rasa sudah pun saya alami. Perkahwinan saya selama 10 tahun juga mengalami nasib yang sama. Kering sudah air mata. Merayu pun dah tak berguna lagi. Tapi wife masih bernasib baik kerana husband masih bertimbang rasa meninggalkan sesuatu untuk menampung hidup. Suami saya pula hanya meninggalkan hutang yang banyak untuk saya selesaikan setiap sen. Walaupun begitu, sebagai seorang isteri yang pernah hidup bersama bahagia dan derita, melahirkan anak untuknya, masih mengharapkan ruang untuk bersama kembali walaupun mustahil.

Setiap yang berlaku ada keburukan dan kebaikan. Saya redha.

Saya membaca ruang di blog Mr.Zuraini untuk hiburan hati saya. Banyak yang boleh dijadikan panduan.

Semoga Mr.Zuraini berjaya dan bahagia.

Rgds,
A (nama sebenar dirahsiakan)

My reply:

Dear A,

I am sorry to know that my recent entry has uncovered a painful past.

Manusia diuji oleh Tuhan dgn bermacam dugaan. Kadangkala kita merasa tiada keadilan di dalam hidup ini. Akan tetapi, Tuhan tidak akan membebankan hambaNya dgn ujian, sekiranya ujian itu tidak layak baginya.

Anggaplah sesuatu yg berlaku itu ada rahmat disebaliknya. Mungkin ada sesuatu rahsia yg indah tersimpan dari ketahuan kita. Tuhan maha penyayang dan maha adil.

Tiada apa yg harus dikesalkan, kerana setiap kejadian itu adalah ketentuan Dia.

Yang penting, kita harus redha dan memandang kehadapan demi meneruskan sebuah kehidupan. Tuhan tidak akan mengubah nasib kita jika kita sendiri tidak berusaha untuk mengubah nasib kita. Berusahalah dan bertawakal.

Bersabar dan sentiasa memanjatkan doa kepadanya, semoga kita diberi semangat yang kuat dan keimanan yang teguh bagi mengharungi setiap badai dan rintangan hidup.

Nescaya, Tuhan itu tidak tidur dan Dia maha mendengar.

I am humbled to know that you have been a long time follower for all of my blogs. I am indeed greatful to know that my posts has benefited you in someways.

I thank you for sharing your plight, and in return, I shall pray for your happiness in time to come.

Wishing you success dan semoga kebahgiaan dunia akhirat akan menjadi milik anda kelak. Amin...

Regards.


ps: Kekuatan wanita itu terletak pada kelembutan hatinya...

Soul: Sad Violin

Till Death Do Us Apart...

"...Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart..."

Sedih ahh..nak nangis! ='(

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you.

She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth.

But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage.

But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger.

I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release.

The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table.

I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.

She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple:

our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me.

But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.

I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully..

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.

Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain.

From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms.

She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.

I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse.

I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more.

There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her.

For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning.

This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one.

Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me...she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out.

To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life.

My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute.

I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway.

Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step.

Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...

I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head.

Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.

Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears.

I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife.

The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. ='(

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The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah.

These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage.


ps: Let's share this article to whom it may concern. God bless you.

Soul: Love Of A Lifetime (Firehouse)

Life Is Art...

I 'cloned' this from Qurniany's tumblr...ehehehe

I so agree, don't you?


ps: I hv been secretly telling myself that Qur has got that Taylor Swift looks! =)

Soul: It's My Life (No Doubt)

The Power Of Love...

I just replied to someone who has sincerely shared her life story and currently facing some emotional crisis in some part of her life.

Love is a wonderful gift from God within our soul, which is to be shared to all creed and mankind.

Love and to be loved is a wonderful feeling that can never be expressed with words.

Love give you hope. A love that heals.

Never underestimate the power of love, where it can be the best remedy for hatred and the cure to all evil deeds.

Kehidupan adalah ujian dari Tuhan yg tidak dapat kiter elak kan. Selagi kiter masih bernafas, kiter akan sentiasa diberi segala mcm dugaan utk kiter harungi.

Ujian Tuhan datang dari segala mcm bentuk...
Ujian dari segi masalah kehidupan...
Ujian dari segi kemiskinan...
Ujian dari segi kekayaan...
Ujian dari kesenangan...
Ujian dari segi kepayahan...
...Dan ujian dari segi godaan.

Usah kemurungan menjadi teman hidupmu, dan biar kemaafan menjadi dendam mu.

Waloaper pon ujian diberikan utk kiter, yg penting kiter harus redha dgn segala ketentuan Dia dan sentiasa kembali kepadaNya disaat-saat kiter hampir berputus asa.

I salute her for being strong to face everyday challenges in life. Life without obstacles, is a no life at all.

Dear you, I hope my little note has shed some light for you. Give love and you are giving a life to someone else...


ps: Never underestimate the power of love....

Soul: Power Of Love (Celine Dion)

Life's too short...

Pagi tu aku sampai opis, aku bukak ler email dulu. Mana ler tahu ader citer lawak yg aku bole share ngan korang ke haper ke...teeehehehee~

Skali aku terbaca email si Rizan derr...

Tukilan dari email dia:

"Smalam aku ader game bola kat springfield sec, lawan ngan budak cina, campur ah, melayu ader, keling pon ader.

Abis game dalam kol 7, nk dekat magrib, aku da sampei kat kreta, skali aku terpandang budak cina ni, tetiba rebah.

Kita pon muskil, wat telah happened, rupanyer budak ni kena FIT, (sawan) mula2, member aku tolak badanyer ke sideways,

So that his lungs can open up. Pas2, dia check pulse, makin weak. Member aku buat CPR & mouth to mouth, tetiba takde heart beat ahh..

Budak ni mati depan mata aku siak. tk sempat masuk ambulan, DEAD. Aku mcm tergamam gitu…

Oh btw, budak ni umur dlm mid 30s… cian, last aku dgr dari kawan dia “bob breath in, breath out, u goin to meet yur daughter rite… pls wake up”

Moral of the story, life too short. Jgn nk enjoy jer. Ingat life after dead. Lagi 1, kalu tk bole tu, jangan paksa. Ader jer rebah trus GONE!!

Saper nk gi jawab!! Korang jawab sendiri ahhh ok!!"


Alamakkkk...betol ler kater org tua2 kiter. Kalo dah tiba ajal, kat mana2 pon bole mati!


ps: Apabila maut datang menjemput, ianya tidak akan cepat sesaat dan tidak akan lambat sesaat...

Soul: What's This Life For? (Creed)

Handphone & Sebatang Rokok (sketsa pagi tadi..)

Korang pernah tak, biler dah lambat, musti ader perkara-perkara yg berlaku utk melambatkan lagi kelambatan korang??

Pagi tadi ujan lebat giler. Mata aku begitu ralat nak bukak pasal kesedapan berselimut atas katil. Tapi aku seret jugak badan aku masok ke bilik air.

Sebelom menuju ke opis, aku singgah kejap ke kedai membeli sekotak rokok yg dah kehabisan stok sejak semalam.

Masa nak masok kedai, ader sorang makcik dan cucunyer diri tercegat depan pintu.

Makcik: Nak, bole tolong makcik tak? Makcik tak tahu nak ON handphone nih.

Lalu dia menghulurkan hp LG nyer kat aku. Aku tak tahu aper model hp tu, tapi aku selalu nampak hp tu ader jual kat 7-11.

Aku: Oh..bole..bole.

Dgn senang hati aku membelek-belek hp tuu cari ON button. Tapi aku tak jumpa! Aku kehairanan...

Aku: Ermm..makck, hp nie takde ON button ke!?

Makcik: Ahh tu lah. Tu pasal makcik tak tahu macam mana nak ON.

Rupanyer, aku dgn makcik tu pon, 2x5=B.E.N.G.A.P jugak derr...haha

Aku tak puas hati. Ader ke hp takde ON button? abeh mcm mana nak gunakan ek? Aku tekan ler segala mcm butang yg ader kat hp tuu..secara tetiba screen hp itu bernyala...Wahhh! pandainyer aku!

Aku: Ahh makcik...makcik! Hp dah bole ON!

Aku begitu bangga dgn 'ke-terror-an' aku kerana berjaya mengodeh alat komunikasi yang canggih seperti itu dalam beberapa minit ajer.

Makcik: Alaaaa...timakasih banyak2 ye, nak. Kalo tak, makcik pon tak tahu ler mcm mana nak tepon anak makcik tu. Bukan aper, cucu makcik nie, suroh tepon mak dia.....bla...bla..sok sek sok sek...kelentang...kelentung....bok bek...bok....bekkk....

...makcik tu pon bercerita dgn panjang lebar. Aku pon sengih-sengih ajer ler mendengar keluhan hati makcik tuu...

Aku: Ahh...yelah makcik. Lain kali jgn beli tepon canggih mcm nie. Susah nak pakai.

Tetiba, kluar seorang lelaki tua berbadan gempal, dari kedai.

Pakcik: Ahh dah bole pakai ke blom hp tu??

Dia tanyer kat makcik tadi. So, aku presume tu bini dia lah.

Makcik: Dah bole nie harr...budak nie yg tolong tadi. (Sambil menunding jari kearah aku)

Pakcik: (Senyum) Oh, Timakasih ye, nak. Pakcik pon tak paham lah nak pakai hp tu.

Aku: Ehehehe...takpe. takpe..(Aku step malu gitu ahh)

Sebaik sajer makcik & pakcik tu bobal sesama sendiri, dgn tidak berlengah lagi, aku pon meredah ler masok ke dlm kedai mencapai segala impian dan niat aku utk membeli rokok.

Time aku kluar dari kedai, aku nampak pakcik tu masih tercegat berdiri sorang diri depan pintu tadi.

Aku: Ehehe..dah bole pakai kan hp tu tadi, pakcik?

Pakcik: Ahh..dah bole..timakasih ye. Nak gie mana nie?

Aku: Saya nak gie kejer nie. Ujan lah hari nie, pakcik. Saya pon dah terlambat nie...

Pakcik: Mintak rokok sebatang, boleh? (Dia nampak aku pegang kotak rokok yg aku beli tadi kat tangan.)

Aku: Huh?? (Oohh..Rupanya dia sanggup tunggu aku luar kedai pasal nak mintak rokok FREE...huhu)

Aku pon bukak ler kotak rokok yg masih disaluti plastic, lalu menghulur kan sebatang kat dia.

Pakcik: Haizzz..ko kejer rajin-rajin tau. Kumpol duit banyak2. Kao jgn kawin dulu!

Aku: Huh?? (Kahwin?? Aku blurr kejap..)

Pakcik: Brpa gaji kao sebulan? Ader seribu? Dua ribu?

Aku: ehehee..gaji cukop untuk makan ajer pakcikk....

Pakcik: Kalo ko ader duit, ko beli baju lawa-lawa mcm nie. (Dia belek sweater yg aku pakai. Rupanyer dia berkenan dgn sweater aku nih) Nanti kalo ko dah kahwin, nak beli rokok pon takde duit!!

Aku: Ehehehe...pakcik tinggal mana nie?

Pakcik: (Muka pakcik tu berubah jadi muram) ..anak pakcik dah halau pakcik kluar dari rumah. Nie pon pakcik dok menompang umah orang....bla..bla..blahh...sok...sek..sok..sekk...

Alamakkk pakcikkkkk...aku dah ler lambat, ujan lebat lak tuu. Sekali pakcik nie ajak dengar story sedih dia lakkkk...ishhh!!!

Aku: owhh...ermm...saya mintak diri dulu ye. Ujan makin lebat nie...

Pakcik: Ahh...ko bawak motor ek? Bawak motor tu bebaik. Ujan nie. Jalan raya licin...

Aku: Ah.haha...yelah pakcik. Jalan dulu ye...

Walopon aku nie tak pernah ader motor (lesen motor pon takde), tapi aku berterimakasih kepada pakcik tu kerana sudi mengingatkan aku supaya berhati-hati dijalan raya ketika ujan lebat nie.. =)


ps: Kepada semua pengguna jalan raya, harap berhati-hati apabila memandu/menunggang di musim hujan ini. Selamat Hari Natal & Happy Holidays! Pesanan ini dibawa khas oleh Sepuloh Tin Sardin. =)

Soul: Rudolph The Red Nosed Reindeer (Destiny's Child)

From Tiara With Love...

Tiara Beach Resort, Port Dickson

ps: Aku tgh sibok unpack luggage. Kepenatan aku tahap cipan. Kasi aku rest dulu from blogging.

Back to life. Back to reality...

*POOF!*

OMG! I'm back to reality again....

ps: Why good things have to end? =(

Soul: Back To Life (Soul 2 Soul)

If life could be like this everyday...

I'm still away on vacation...but reality is creeping up slowly.

ps: This is an auto-generated blog post. Will be back soon...

"Menggatalinggam"

I was following Sharina's twitter updates the other day.

What lured me, she was searching for answers and rambling her thoughts abt infidelity. I too, not able to give her a definite answer to that.

Surprisingly, everyone is speaking the same topic everywhere. (Macam topic musiman plak ek?) And coincidently, I came across a wall post, by a fren on facebook, defining on the term.

Emotional infidelity...
why would a person reveal aspects of themselves to another besides their spouse? The answer is clear, isn't it?

"...When a person's emotional needs are not met in a relationship, I guess. We want to be desired, loved, but most of all, understood. And we want to be able to trust our partners in order to communicate fully without fear of them getting upset, angry or unstable.

When that doesn't happen or looks like we're stuck with a spouse who's never going to change, then it's either suffer alone, or unburden to someone else. And if that someone is the opposite sex who's attractive and attracted to us, physical intimacy is just a short step away.

But of course I'm relating from a woman's point of view. I've read that reasons for men's cheating has more to do with sex and his emotional needs are not met at all as a result of the cheating. So, depends lah..."

I wud say it was eloquently articulated. Don't know if she may have dealt with the kind of experience personally, but then, partly it cud be true.

Jgn lupa saksikan Diari Penerbit di Suria pada hari Sabtu 19 Dec 2009 @9.30pm. It covers on the same subject.


ps: the world is not weird nor strange, but the people.

Soul :  Bizarre Love Traingle (Nouvelle Vague)

Life Is...

ps: Ah la la la la la life is wonderful.....

Alahh emak kahwin kan aku...

Jarang aku dapat email dari Abg Rosli. Tapi sekali-sekala dia kasi email...fuhhhh...PEDAS!!!

Nie lagi satu email dia sent kat aku tadi. Lepakk siakk aku ketawa! Ntah dari saper nyer artikel dia suah sapu, tapi bagus jugak ler dia share ngan kiter sumer hal-perihal ehwal semasa dlm negeri nie.

So, aku pon nak share ngan korang ahh, lelebih lagi utk sumer yg tgh sibuk nak kahwin, yg blom kahwin dan yg dah kahwin tapi nak kahwin lagi.. =D

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Aku ni actually ghairah pat members² aku start plan kawin. Bukan jealous cuma tumpang gembira jer. Heehee..

So aderla satu hari tu, members aku satu ni tepon nak jemput aku ke majlis dia...

Aku pon tanya ler.. 'Amacam geng, semua dah siap?'

Dia cakap 'Parah beb, gua kayap siak ni bulan... 20 ribu dah abis siol..'
HAAA?!? 20 RIBU?!?! Mak oi..

Hidop pat singapore nie memang ler mahal and kekadang tu pasangan tak jadi kahwin pasal duit tak cukop ataupon duit yang ade tu diorang tak bleh agree nak digunakan untuk apa.

Maknernyer, diorang plan nak buat majlis kan, abih tak boleh agree with each other, so they bergaduh & bertekak & salahkan mak bapak each other & end up, tak jadi kahwin..... Al kisahhh...

Tapi kan, aku heran tau... pasangan sekarang lebih stress memikirkan majlis ini daripader memikirkan maser depan dan hala tujuan hidup bersamer selepas
nikah. Heran eh?? Diorang ingat lepas kawin life stops there ke??

Hmm.. ok, that's a different story..

So getting back pasal duit nie kan, tak ikut market price nanti orang kata kedekut lah, sengkek lah, tak mampu jangan ada hati nak kahwin lah, akak kau peh laki la, mak ensem bapak jambu la, hai... macam-macam story lagi.

Biasanyakan, yang letak harga ialah mak sebelah pompan. Bapak confirm mesti orait.. ikutkan aje. Kadang2 ada jugak pompan sendiri yang letak harga, lepas tu pakat dengan mak, revenue sharing 50/50.

Hurhurhur basketball btoll...

Mengikut survey kedai kopi pat Jurong West St 42, sekarang hantaran paling minimum ialah SGD$7000.. Maximum sampai $25,000 pon ade.

Kalau kedai kopi Marsiling lak SGD$5000 + rokok kretek 30carton. Dasyat beb.. Dah lah Singapore ni mahal giler.. Macam mane couple tak bertekak..Nak tahu apasal mahal?

Mengikut Survey Kedai Gunting Teban Gardens, antara punca hantaran sekarang makin mahal;

1. Anak pompan sorang
2. Anak pompan sekolah tinggi sampai tingkat 20
3. Anak pompan paling jambu dalam family
4. Anak pompan kerja lawyer/doctor/CEO AnakMelayu.com
5. Anak pompan biasa pakai barang branded
6. Anak pompan yang pandai masak, kemas rumah, layan suami sampai suami takmo gi kerja
7. Kakak belum kahwin; jadi kena sponsor kakak kawin jugak.. nanti lemau..
8. Anak pompan tu banyak yang melamar, semuanya hensem brylcream + kaya

Mengikut survey Kedai Basikal Chai Chee, selalunya jawapan yang diberi oleh pihak lelaki kalau hantaran melampau sangat ialah;

1. Bapak Rock - 'Lu giler ka pa beb?'
2. Bapak Mithali -?'Astarghfirullah..'
3. Bapak Bintang TV - 'TTIIDDDAAAAKKKKKK!!!!!!'
4. Bapak Gangster/Tailong - 'Masih 'virgin' ke tak ni lu peh girl, ada diamond ka pa..'
5. Bapak Bisnesman - 'We're sorry but the returns of our investment is definitely less than 20%...'
6. Bapak Lembik - 'mahal la.. macam mane nie daling?' sambil membisik pat Isterinya...
7. Bapak Garang - 'APAAAA?!?! AAPPAAAAAA??!! CUBA KAU CAKAP LAGI SEKALI!!!??'
8. Bapak Gerek - 'HAHAHA! Lupakan sudah... Takpe Roy, nanti bapak recommend yang lebih power dari Ashwarya Rai eh?'


Mengikut survey Warung Nasi Lemak Bussorah Street, kata² dari sebelah pompan yang lelaki ingin sangat nak dengar ialah;

1. 'Ikut suka hatilah.. Berapa yang lelaki kasi; kita ambik je. Makcik ngan pakcik kau nie tak cerewet.'
2. 'Takpelah. Kalau tak boleh adakan sekarang; kahwin dulu. Lepas tu bayar pelan-pelan cara instalment.'
3. 'Jangan bimbang. Korang cuma adakan hantaran je. Duit majlis semua kita sponsor.'
4. 'Pasal makcik kau ngan pakcik kau nie suka sangat kat kau, kita ikhlas...'
5. 'Berapa korang nak kasi, kasilah. Nak ambik free pun takpe. Anak pompan kita ramai lagi. Ada kawan, rekemen arh skali'


Mengikut survey Mat Despatch Gathering @ Waterloo St, kalau kena pulak family lelaki yang loaded makan tak abis punya; jawapannya;

1. 'Okay setuju. Kita up lagi $10,000. Ditanggung beresss.'
2. 'Ehh sikit nah! Camni tak nak lah. Malu la kawin hantaran $10,000. Kami OKB tau!'
3. 'Brape? Gitu je?'
4. 'Dahling, amikkan chek book abang tu.. '
5. 'Sebagai hadiah upacara masuk minang ni; kita ada siapkan kereta 5 bijik. Tu anak bujang kita tengah parking semua kat bawah tu.'
6. 'Sebagai hadiah upacara masuk minang ni; kita ada siapkan kereta 5 bijik, 3 bijik TV LCD 50 inci, 2 tiket penerbangan ke...'


Haa... tu lah beberapa karenah orang melayu kita ni. Hati dah suka punya pasal, semua boleh aje.

Cukup time tak larat nak naik pelamin pasal kerja tiga empat macam untuk kumpul duit. Ada pulak tu...yg terpaksa amik personal loan la, 0% installment Bank la, atau pakai credit card.

Honeymoon pon utang.. Lepas kawin, dah balik dari honeymoon, kepala teros sewel, pikir nak bayar hutang and at the end of it, tak tercapai lah maksud perkahwinan yg sepatutnya semakin memudahkan kehidupan.. dah terbalik.. jadi semakin susah.

So amacam geng, dah ready nak kawin?

Kalau yg dah kawin tu, ape pulak masalah dorang..

End.

ps: Tu hari aku dok sembang dgn satu ustaz. Dia beritahu aku, statistic penceraian kalangan masyarakat melayu meningkat akibat masalah kewangan dan beban hutang. Ustaz tu kater lagi, isteri-isteri sekarang terlampao demanding dan materialistic.

Lesson Learnt From The Last Ramadan...

Setiap bulan ramadan, pasti akan meninggalkan kesan dan iktibar utk kiter sumer. Apabila kiter berketemu ramadan yang akan dtg, kita akan menjadi manusia yg lebih baik dan tawaduk...ceyy...aku bobal mcm ustaz sakk!! Muahahaha.... =D

Actually betol ahh. Pasal, ramadan kali nie telah memberi pengajaran utk aku. Lain kali kalo nak buat persiapan hari raya, tolong buat sebelom bulan posa, okeyy...

Kalo nak buat baju raya ke, cari langsir ke, cat umah ke, beli pokok bunga ke, pasang lampu lap-lip ke...tolong ler buat sebelom bulan posa. Jangan nak nunggu time bulan posa baru nak buat...konon nak tangkap mood dulu....cheyy podah!

Tahun nie aku tak sempat nak cat umah pon. Aku ingat nak cat umah time bulan posa tu hari. Yelah, kalo cat time bulan posa tu, semangat nyer lain sikit. Tapi kali nie terasa malas tersangat-sangat. Terus tak bercat pon umah aku.

Lagi pon, time bulan posa nie aku sibuk ler dgn kejer. Project tetiba menjadi TERbanyak nak aku langsaikan. Dgn tak secara langsung, mood raya pon hilang. Datang ler mood malas tahap cipan.

Masa shopping kat geylang tu hari pon kelam-kabut dibuat nyer. Yelah, dgn org yg penuh sesak sekeliling, kao nak cari barang pon bole lupa. Main grab jer asal bole. Janji tangkap muat.


Pastu, aku lak nie jenis malas nak turun geylang 2-3 kali time bulan posa. Malas nak jalan ahh. Lelebih lagi dgn cuaca yg panas dan bahang. Aku masok bazaar, sepuloh minit kluar balik tak tahan rimas!

Aku rasa, ade lebih baik nyer time bulan posa tu, kiter tumpukan pada amal jariah dan lebihkan amal ibadah. Aku tak nak sibuk-sibuk gie shopping ke, cat umah ke, ntah aper lagi ntahh....

Lagi pon, shopping sebelom bulan posa nie ader save sikit. Kao tak nampak duit selepuk kluar dari poket kao. Aku rasa, bulan posa lepas, aku dah spent 3 kali ganda dari bulan-bulan yg biasa. Rasa mcm rugi betol ler...

Kalo dipanjang kan umur tahun depan, aku nak buat persiapan seawal-awal nyer lah. Jadi aku tak kelam-kabut time bulan posa. Sebulan posa tu sebenarnya, teramat ler singkat utk kiter satukan amal ibadah kiter dgn bershopping....tsk....tsk...tsk..

Itu jer aku nak kongsi kat korang. Tahun depan raya biler ek??

ps: Tahun depan aku nak cat umah siang-siang ahh...

Soul: Koleksi Lagu-lagu Hari Raya (Sepuloh Tin Sardin)

Si Pengemis Musiman

Wak & Adzam ajak aku gie solat Jumaat kat Masjid Sultan semalam. Dah terlanjur tu, Wak kater nak belikan wife dia kebab kat Bussorah Street.

Di situ amat meriah sekali pada bulan puasa. Susasana amat berlainan kalo aku nak bandingkan dimasjid2 lain serata Singapore nie. Mungkin keadaan sekeliling yg begitu sinonim dgn masyarakat Melayu / Islam setempat yg memberi banyak perbezaan.

Setelah selesai solat, aku pon turun dari aras 2 masjid dan terus mengambil kasut di lelapang depan. Sambil memerhatikan para jemaah yg berpusu-pusu kluar, aku lihat ader sekumpulan pengemis yg dah mula bertapak di depan pagar masjid.

Masing-masing menghulurkan tangan sambil menagih rayu simpati, meminta belas ikhsan serta mengharapkan sedollar dua dari orang2 yg berjalan kluar dari pintu pagar itu.

"Macam kena bayar duit tol pulak ek?" aku berkata didalam hati.

Si pengemis tanpa segan silu meminta sedekah. Aku sangkakan org mintak sedekah dah tak wujud lagi di Singapura. Ader pengemis yg datang dgn berpakaian cantik, tubuh sihat. Ada pula ibu-ibu muda mengendung anak2 kecil sambil mengemis.

Ada satu insiden pulak, setelah seorang hamba itu memberi sedekah pada si pengemis, pengemis-pengemis yg lain berlari menerjah si penderma itu hingga ke tengah jalan raya dan meminta-minta wang lagi.

"Makkoo...kena keroyok ramai-ramai siakk!" aku tercenggang melihat gelagat mereka ketika berdiri di lampu traffic depan Restoran Zam-Zam.

Aku teringat kembali sewaktu aku ke indonesia dulu. Dia org pesan, kalo dah beri duit kena cepat2 lari. Kalo tak, kao kena kejar mati-matian. Aaahh...sama lah keadaan skrg nie.

So, aku rasa pengemis-pengemis nie bukan org-org dari sini. Pengemis import rupanya. Aku iingat para pemain bolasepak professional ajer diimport. Rupanya pengemis pon ader diimport jugak ek?

Dimanakah badan2 kebajikan dan penguatkuasa ketika ini? Seharusnya mereka patut menjangkakan pengemis musiman akan berleluasa disekitar masjid2 pada hari-hari tertentu. Kenapa tiada tindakan?

Adanya pengemis2 musiman ini akan memberi image yg buruk pada persekitaran masjid2. Nak tunggu orang complain ke baru nak amik tindakan?


ps: Dulu aku kenal satu makcik nie mengemis disekitaran Jalan Sultan. Setiap minggu aku nampak dia masok kan duit dlm Maybank kat bangunan Textile Centre sekitar $500 utk ditransfer ke Malaysia. Dlm sebulan aku kira, dia meraih wang mengemis hampir $2000. Kalo ditukar ke RM, nilai wang beliau dianggarkan sekitar RM5000. Gaji si pengemis tu lebih kurang dah mcm gaji seorang engineer!

Soul: Suara Takbir (P. Ramlee)

Biler isteri tak setia lagi

Aku baru dgr kat radio, pasangan romantis Anang & Kris Dayanti telah berpisah.

Mungkin gossip tak? Aku google kat internet....perghhh..confirmed ahh..

Pengakuan Anang keatas penceraiannya.

Other related news: http://catatantukang.blogspot.com/2009/09/anang-dan-krisdayanti-telah-cerai.html

Topic discussi mula mencurah di email aku. Kami mula berdebat knp isteri-isteri skrg mula tak setia? Kalo dulu kiter selalu dgr sang suami ajer yg play three stick (main kayu tiga lahh). Tapi sekarang, isteri-isteri yg berlaku curang semakin banyak terjadi.

Aku rasa dah jadi macam trend tak? Or, mungkin wanita-wanita itu telah menjadi lebih independent dan lebih berjaya sampai sanggup membelakang kan suami? Or...sajer jer nak mengediks dgn jantan lain pasal tak cukop dpt satu joy stick (batang kegembiraan).

Adalah kurang tepat bila orang kater lelaki ajer yg selalu kena setreotype sebagai pencurang. But, actually aper yg aku nampak disekeliling aku adalah sebaliknya.

My related posts pasal isteri-isteri curang:
http://belachantumbuk.blogspot.com/2008/11/abdi-cinta.html
http://10tinsardin.blogspot.com/2009/07/black-hole-sun.html
http://10tinsardin.blogspot.com/2009/07/wonder-girls.html


ps: Tu pasal skrg ramai lelaki tak nak kahwin. Pasal takot dpt isteri yg curang agaknyer...

Soul: I'm Sorry Goodbye (Kris Dayanti)

Mood masih lari...

Actually, aku masih takde mood lagi nie.

Nak buat kejer pon takde mood. Rasa sumer mcm tak kena. Buat tu salah, buat nie salah. Serba-serbi salah....

Kini aku lebih banyak mendiamkan diri. I'm just trying to pull myself back together again. It's tough, I know. But life has to go on....

Too many things being held back. Too many things to reschedule. It's all like going berserk. I don't need a break just yet. All I need is a little privacy.

I hope to be back to myself again in the next couple of days. I don't like what I'm going thru either.

But yeah, it's tough being me.


ps: I'll be back....soon. Don't worry.

Soul: Not Myself (John Mayer)

Life isn't a bed of roses

Now, in the midst fiddling with my working PC. Doing troubleshooting due to unexplain errors occuring during start up. Removing excessive datas and removing / installing softwares. Not very good with computers and these things keep bugging me all time.

While all the actions are taking place on the old Pentium 3 machine, I'm logged into my laptop listening to my music playlist and writting this blog.

Frustrating at times when speed is essential and problems cropped up.

Ciggis running out and the heat making me craves for slurpee. A walk to the convenience store across will take ages.

Flipping the plans and drawings. WTF! I should be sleeping.

Do you think I'm smilling now? YES! Smiling from reading Haffi's email. Thanks! "That's just enough" to make me smile when I need someone to cheer me up.

Going thru the installation progress for the 2nd time. It halted the 1st time. Oh, its 12 midnight and I have yet to begin anything. Forget later. The agony starts now. Sustain myself tonite, and I shall survive when morning breaks...

Such a boring life...


ps: Sorry for the loud music. It's to keep me awake thru the nite. =(

Soul: Bloodflower (Draconian)